many ways to success

My rhyme

2010-03-01T22:51:00.000-08:00

Itna laachaar to main
kabhi nahi tha,

ye tadpan badti hai,
uske khyalo mein aate hi,
kuch kaante jaisi chubhti hai suiyaan,
unse bichad jaate hi,
dard pehle b sahe they maine
par itna dard kabhi nai tha.......

itna laachaar main
kabhi nai tha,

aakhein nam si rehti hain,
ek nasha sa rehta hai,
akela ho jata hun uske bina,
sirf uska ehsaas hi rehta hai,
sharab b ye na kar pai ab tak
tanhai mein b pehle tanha itna na tha.......

itna laachaar main
kabhi nai tha,

Woh fir ek pyaar ka chota pal de k gai,
woh fir mujhe apna bana k gai,
akele rehna ab nai bhaata,
woh kuch aisa mujhse leh k gai,

Ab ho gaya hai uska yeh dil
jo pehle kisi ka na tha.....

Itna laachaar main kabhi nai tha...

(Amit chopra)

To the 1 unseen yet..

2010-03-01T22:30:00.000-08:00

Oh my friend,
i am feeling loneliness again,
the moment you left me,
couldn't that come again...

I AM THAT AGAIN AS I WAS,

Oh my love,
the talks we shared,
the breaths we heard,
the messages we wrote,
the laugh we made,
They are all gone ..
they are all lost...

I AM THAT AGAIN AS I WAS,

Oh my beloved,

The nights are long now,
the days are hell now,
what had you made me,
it was good, but it's really bad now....

so please come to me now
please come to me now
oh please.....

I AM THAT AGAIN AS I WAS...

I am feeling loneliness again,
the moment you left me,
couldn't that come again....................
(Amit chopra)

sound of success....

2010-02-21T06:39:00.000-08:00

from where i should start, hmm it was a day from the early morning (i.e 8.00 a.m ) haha.. . i had just washed my face and brushed my teeth, suddenly my house bell rang. my friend Dev came, he was looking bit tensed, i went downstairs and asked him the reason. he said, (in HINDI yaar gaadi ko dhakka lagana hai start karni hai) i.e need to push the car to start it. i went down the at a sudden he said, BHABHI's (sister in law, elder brother's wife) is having the pain of delievery. so she need to be to the maternity hospital.

I said, brother we should take my car, i brought keys from upstairs and then we left for his house. Then elder brother(BHAIYA) brought BHABHI in her arms from third floor. The condition of bhabhi was not good she was crying and yelling with pain, and then i saw that some kind of liquid is also coming from her lower body part. bhaiya make her to lay down in the car anyhow . and then he drove towards a maternity hospital.

he managed again to carry her till he lay down on the strecher at hospital the nurse came. nurses managed further and called the doctor. She (the doctor) came down and checked or examined BHABHI, and Doctor said that BHABHI is not cooperating with them and crying and screeming very loud.

After 5-10 min. Doctor came back and said that the child is not breathing and child leg was already outside the embroy of BHABHI. Then every body calmed and a pin drop silence was there. might be every body was praying for the health of BHABHI and THE HALF BORN child. actually it was premature baby also (7 Months).

after 1/2 an hour child srying sound came outside and doctor too came out, said that baby is in fine condition and BHABHI is also fine. Doctors anyhow managed to save them both. but it was a miracle for us or god had heared our voice.

then the baby was shifted to the incubators zone or to that hospital(MAX hospital). and then BHAIYA went with the kid and i stayed with BHABHI, Dev went to take some food or sweet.. for the celebration.. In this way "the sound of success" is heared from the baby...

TIME(wakt) my poem

2010-02-01T09:20:00.000-08:00

Wakt tu na guzar, ban k hawa
tham ja, ruk k chal, abhi sahi wakt nai huwa.

Mujhe bhi tu le le saath zara
mere kadmo se kadam apne tu bhi mila.
ya mujhe b khud sa bana de
sun jara, kuch keh jara.

Wakt tu na guzar, ban k hawa
tham ja, ruk k chal, abhi sahi wakt nai huwa.

Abhi kuch karna bhi hai,
kuch dost hain unse milna bhi hai
khud k liye wakt to nikalu
khud ko kuch pehchanu bhi to zara.

Wakt tu na guzar, ban k hawa
tham ja, ruk k chal, abhi sahi wakt nai huwa.

Par tu na ruka hai na hi rukega,
bus itna karan kar k
k mujhko sab karne ka sahi wakt to bata

Wakt tu na guzar, ban k hawa
tham ja, ruk k chal, abhi sahi wakt nai huwa.

(amit chopra)

OUR TIGER

2010-01-31T07:16:00.000-08:00

I am talking about my own country's known animal. it is TIGER. but the truth is they are coming to end very fast or if i say they are disappearing from our's mother land or i think from the beautiful earth. this beautiful and large land of earth is not made for us human beings only but also for those who are not living in our neighborhood.
Do you think smetimes, that if only humans alone of their kind are left on this world , so what is left to see on this earth.
the number of tigers in INDIA, which were around 5000 five years back, they are now 1410 only or approximately closer to that number. what we are seeing now is counting the numbers but is this enough. no, i think just looking into the figure or worrying for it is waste. so what should we do as a normal reader or writer of blog is that we can spread awareness to everyone. and by this only we can't do oue best but we can do the least. so if anyone of u is reading my blog so plz write into ur blog about the decreasing number of species in your country or area. plz make people aware of this bad situation. so that each and every living being feel easy to live on this beautiful earth....

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believe on self...................

2009-02-16T09:57:00.000-08:00

Today, i have learnt that there is nothing, nobody else without our own self who can make us to the way of win, courage, success.
even the timewhich is going with us, or with which we are moving is not with us. it also leaves us on the road like a dust. bt if we have courage to move with time then we can be made king of the world by this time too.
it is only one or our self power which can make us to do any thing. we have not to be looser at any point.
I earler was in a thought that any body would help in the path, any body will help me in my fight or disputes or any thing. but i realized now thatonly i have to fight, only i and my courage will go and win. no body else will come.

my thought

2009-02-05T04:34:00.000-08:00

earler i was in a belief that society makes a person, but i was wrong, a person's nature,type of profile, his/her ability, his/her attitude, etc makes him. and according to which he is called by any society.

suppose, if a person is hard working and intelligent then , his/her friends or collegues would also be of that kind, cause of his nature. i may be wrong some where on some else thoughts. but what i believe a person can also choose his society according to his own will and hard work towards any field. plz comment me if i am right or wrong according to u.

my thought

2009-02-02T16:21:00.000-08:00

talking, thinking, discussing,planning,listening,sleeping,entertaning self, laughing are waste if nothing is done after these things.

meaning:- that these things are here to make us relaxed and get back to the work again. they remove our tension and tiredness but if we keep doing these work then these all will be called waste.
we have to and have to take the next step that is "do" the work or job assigned to us.
greetings:- love

Win small hurdels

2009-02-01T09:06:00.000-08:00

today, i came to know that, if we try to win or solve small hurdle or disputes the we can win any big game or match.
today, i went to my elder's cousion brother's home. he and his wife were fighting on a small thing which was that my brother didn't tell about his daily routine to her wife. and this samll thing reached to talks of divorce. she said i am going back to my home and i am not happy with your mom too.
my mom and father reached at their home, where the elder brothers of her came too there to solve the dispute. but no conclusion came afetr long talks of 3 hours. so they sit together again for five minutes as told to them by elders. then in those five minutes dispute got solved. how was that occur no body knows but divorce ended and they are again happy in their home.
so i learnt we should not be irresponsible about small things cause they are the roots of big problems. so through calm and understanding one can easily solve any problem.

only for success of soul

2009-01-17T10:24:00.001-08:00

only for success of soul.........................

hey, today i came to know that this world doesn't want anuthing except love. all are living for love and having in his/her/their arms. If i start from the small new born baby. it wants love of mother, cries for milk due to love. stays in her warm arms due to love. then baby comes in age of teens, needs direction to go in right direction leading to success and growth but all occurs due to love again, love is basic need behind all. again when adult age arrives need of a friend who can share feeling of love and anger, love is the solution of anger again. so love apperars in opposite sex. force himself towards that. now when marriage comes, all things happens, a good relation and a bond needs love only so that they can live together for whole life with love. when old age comes love is the only thing which an old age person finds and wants again, death for love, to be with soully with god, beloved or anybody else. whose thoughts always went in the mind of a person for whole life. so love is the sole purpose of life . so why to leave love in this beautiful life. we should open our hands and accept in any form. we should kiss it many times not one.

being happy is success

2009-01-16T03:11:00.000-08:00

these days i am very happy cause i am understanding how to live life happily, i an using a funda that is just complete my daily work or the work assigned to me. i complete that and and enjoy after that. and i like this happiness in me. just loving work and friends. this is my funda. hope i can continue it for long.

and another thing, i try to be happy and smiling so my face is replying to me, my mind is more active. love you my god.

success for my dear friend

2009-01-08T06:47:00.000-08:00

I am writing this in what sense i see my friend's behaviour. i don't know how is he acting now a days.
he is not doing anything just wasting his time in orkuting, chating, roaming here and there. just sleeping for 10-12 hours a day. i don't know why he is not trying to improving his life's standard. i don't want, that he should work according to me or work as i say. but i want him in working and moving mode. he is not even trying to work. i told him to work on improving his pronounciation and increasing vocabulary for english. I have told and made him understood about the condition of the competitive world. he don't even want to stay up to date about how. even his and his family condition is not so well. his father is retired, but i don't know why he don't want to do any job.
even if i see myself, i don't do much of work in a day. but still i believe and faith on me that i utilise some of my time for my work.
i don't know what should i tell him that he starts working and try to improve his life's style. he just want o spend time in chating with girls, (even i want this too) but i will do it later or side by side . actually he spend all of the time in thinking about the gals talks. he is my best friend , so i want him at the top of this whole world, i am happy with all his talks with gals. i am happy with all his funny talks. but i am angry when he doesn't do his work for earning his own life.
I have decided a thing that i should leave on his own way, so that he can alone decide what he wants. i now want him alone, so that he can think what he wants to do.

should i do some thing else. please tell me if u think i am wrong in my decision somewhere.

Is death a success for god

2008-12-23T00:09:00.000-08:00

Is death really a success for god, he takes our most lovable thing/person or love from us and then we are left with only the moments we spent with our love.

one of my friend age 25years passed away yesterday in a road accident near (pragati maidan) . the accident happened with a bus and his bike came under the bus. and in a single next moment he died.

about him, a very nice person, a guy with pure heart, he just want o stay with friends and share love with them or us. a person well built and nice persona. never hursted any one.

but i want to ask from God that why him, there are so many on earth, who can't see anyone happy except them. many are their who just want to kill some body else. many are wasting their lives at pubs, at roads, fighting, involved in bad habbit. so why they don't die.

why are they living on this pure earth. why they are here. as god wants earth should be clean and pure, so why don't he call them.

i am angry with my god somewhere. but can't do anything. he just take and don't see anything. like the screaning and yelling sounds of sisters, mothers, and friends. he don't even come to give shoulder to the father of the dies person.

we can just do a thing that we can try to be like our friend, we can try to have his good habbits with, we can remember him in every happy moment...........

love to my friend's soul. may he get a good journey ahead. may he be with god this time. some white roses for him.

it's my birthday ..........yipppppppppyyyyyyyyyyy

2008-11-18T09:51:00.000-08:00

hey friends, today is my birth day so i want to offer you have a bite from my birthday cake

love for success

2008-10-27T07:07:00.000-07:00

LOVE, it is not only just a word. for some it is feelings, love in form of greed, in form of anger, in form of sex,in form of drawing, all starts from love and ends on love. so for success, it is necessary that you should fall in love in that work in which you, might be you are with agirl, with a company or organisation, anything .
Even some of the girls who fall in the business of prostittution or any thing like that, in actual they want love. similarly those who falls in the field of drug addiction or drinking habbit, in actual they want someone who can stay with them always in their mind. so love is their medicine from which they should be treated.
Even I think that, the person who becomes rapist, they also needs true love and true direction. if they get it then their is nothing in this world that can take them to that way.
love brings satisfaction and fulfillness with self.
and attaing the position of self is attaining god in self, so love yourself and then somebody else cause loving self is also necessary it tells what is our own personality.

Rule the fear

2008-10-26T09:53:00.000-07:00

Fear

If nothing ever scares you, success is easy. You never feel hesitant, shy or nervous. You take action.

However, when you do not act, it is probably because of fear.

Fear is the inability to face someone or something. You prefer to avoid it. When you cannot face an issue, it seems complicated or stressful.

For example, if you cannot talk about money with people, you have money problems. Whenever you need to ask for money or negotiate financial terms, you freeze. As a result, you earn less money.

If you are an employer, but cannot face staff conflicts, production statistics decline. Work becomes serious. Since no one resolves the staff problems, they persist while your business suffers.

Avoiding topics with your spouse is a common reason for marriage problems. Your fears block your communication. Hiding, withholding or suppressing your feelings and thoughts from your spouse is a giant leap toward divorce.

how fears are like shadows. If you reach out and take action despite your fears, you will discover how thin and weak the fears really are!

To illustrate this point, he wrote, "On Lake Tanganyika* the natives have a very interesting way of catching fish. There on the equator the sun shines straight down through the clear water. The natives take blocks of wood and string them along a long rope. They stretch this rope between two canoes and with these abreast begin to paddle towards the shoal** water. By the time they have reached the shoals, schools of fish are piled and crowded into the rocks and onto the beach. The blocks of wood on the rope make shadows which go all the way down to the bottom of the lake and the fish, seeing the approach of these shadows and the apparent solid bars which they form in the water, swim fearfully away from them and so are caught." -

Four Ways to Shine Light on Your Shadows

1. One effective method is drilling or role playing. You identify a circumstance that gives you fear. You pretend to face the situation in a role-playing exercise. Drilling allows you to discover which parts of the problem are really problems and which are simply shadows.

For example, you need to ask your boss for a raise. Before talking to him you practice the conversation with your friend. You work out some details, change your approach and work out your best possible presentation. Because you are prepared for the meeting, you are not as nervous.

2. Another method of reducing fear is to approach the problem with gradient steps. You cut the problem into smaller pieces. You successfully deal with the small parts and thus reach a full resolution.

For example, you need to fill out a 10-page government tax form. Instead of trying to take on the entire task in one day, you decide to just fill out the first page and then quit.

One page is much easier than ten pages! The next day, you decide to tackle pages two and three.

You continue like this and before you know it, you have completed the form. You have conquered your fear.

3. Talking about the fear can reduce the effects of fear. After you openly discuss it with someone who listens, the problem often feels less difficult.

For example, you are afraid of flying in an airplane. Your spouse agrees to listen to you and you spill your guts. You describe everything about flying that scares you. After a while, you decide you can fly.

talking and listening is a powerful form of therapy, when done correctly. As a result, you can completely remove your fears. For more information, click the link at the end of this article.

4. In many cases, the best approach to dealing with a fear is to close your eyes and jump in. You face the fear without any regard for your feelings and emotions. You might get nervous or even terrified, but once you take the leap, you discover the big monsters are merely shadows.

Confronting a fear can be tough, but the reward is enormous.

Succeeding, despite a fear, means you have done something you could not do before. And that is real success!

I AM

2008-10-19T09:04:00.000-07:00

I am the King, i am the slave. I am the rich, I am the poor.

I am the right, I am the wrong. I am the truth, I am the false.

I am the friend, I am the enemy. I am the winner, i am the looser,

I am the Life, I am the death. I am the weaker, I am the powerful.

I am the lover , I am the one who Hates. I am the religion , I am the unreligious.

I am the maker, I am the destroyer. I am the giver, I am the taker.

I am the one who gives birth. I am the one who kills.

I am writer, i am the reader. I am the speaker , I am the listner.

I am the finder, I am the hider. I am what I have decided to be.

so then wy all are fighting with each other for showing their presence in this beautiful. only love for everyone is the solution and saving earth for our lives is our duty and nothinh\g else except these two is our work.

POWER AND KNOWLEDGE

2008-10-14T06:39:00.000-07:00

Power and Knowledge are the things which can take anyone from bottom to the top of this world. Sometimes some parents like mine says that do concentrae on your study first and then on other things. but somewhere i stand somewhere else from them and their words.

i believe and trust that " Power comes from knowledge and knowledge comes from the efforts of the mind and mind has to use power of its own and body" . so am i correct in your thinking. i have some thought6s which i am writing in quotes below:-

1. knowlegde can let us to the top of world in the queue of intelligents.

2. Power let us to rule over those who think we are intelligent.

3. power also let us to rule over those who make some lines and let others to follow them.

4. Intelligence sometimes may be with a poor man but the power of something can only change his life.

5. The combination of not of these can lead to win anything in this world except some truth like love in this world cause love stays outside of these two. i am talking about true love, not that which can be purchased and sold.

what you think of my thoughts and beliefs, so friends comment me on this, so i can add some thing more for success.

Made another Blog

2008-10-09T04:26:00.000-07:00

Yes I have made another blog, that includes my hobby and intrest. and that is all about CARS and BIKES. so get all the related informations about FEATURES of the NEW CARS and BIKES, including many news going on in the field of RACES.

GOing to be a fun. HAVE A LOOK AT THAT, recently added a news from F1 races.

stay near to happiness

2008-09-24T19:34:00.000-07:00

everyone wants to be successful in life, but some of them get that because some reasons are there which causes them not to reach at their desired destiny. everyone wants happiness but some get and some waste their whole life in finding that.

i have found a little reason behind that, that is if you want to stay happy and in the mood of joy everytimw then, first you have to decide that I have to be happy and ever in laughing. second step be with them, you think i am comfortable and relaxed and happy and in the mood of joy. it will bring self happiness and exciting mood.

Next, after these two steps only you can have anything in life. anything. stay near to friends, happinesss, (near to god too if you feel relax with him, talk to him he will reply for sure.), anything in which you feel good and confident but not afraid of any body or anything.

last step complete your job work too cause if that is not completed then mind will stay in that every time.

after these you will be the happiest personon this world.

take care . plz comment what you think.

Managing

2008-09-20T11:38:00.000-07:00

Its been 6 days ihave not written any post, cause i was not having something to write but this friday my lecturar asked me some quesion about myself and in that i got a bit jumbled . He then said when you don't know yourself then your life is waste or going to be waste, so that pinched me but i know and understand that truth pinchs but it is truth.

soon that day i start thinking about my self and describe my self to me. i took pages and wrote what i am, my intrest, my hobbies are. waht i want and waht i don't. I also noted the time i waste and utilize. this is necessary and veyr uch needy to me. I made two coloumn and then wrote my hobbies and intrest.

then i came to know, i haave intrest in many things like tennis, cricket, football, in many games that is for fun, for knowledge i like to read news paper coloumn incuding sports, politics, happening, and many knowledge providing coloumns. In movies I like to see action, sometimes fun, sometimes love and romance, emotions generally. these all told me that i am having intrest in these only and i do all these for increasing my knowledge, stunt ability in me, ability to take decision, these all are not waste but goes waste when i don't have any effect of that on me. these all also tell that, i have knowledge of every thing but deep knowledge is missing at every point that sinks me. knowledge in depth is must cause it makes able to stand and speak infront of anyone cause deep knowledge brings confidence.

then i departed or filled the coloumn of hobbies, so that brought writing notes and playing guitar, teaching guitar, teaching students who are younger than me. so my hobbies were less.

so i came to conclude that intrest are what we like to do and hobbies are those intrest which becomes part of our daily life and we love to do them. but keeping in mind that every point about hobby should beclear so that you don't fail to explain or tell answers for them. so hobby's total and complete knowledge is needy.

then choose your success, cause hobby or intrest can make you successful. because you know them completely. that can and will bring success.

it is very important topic and everyone who has not made him to this level should think and do this. it is important step for life. which i came to understand now. thanxto my lecturar.

LOVE YOUR DREAM

2008-09-13T23:17:00.000-07:00

What i came to know from me tommorow and what i examined by myself, if we have any dream and if we want something from the true depth of our heart then it surely comes to us many a times, but what needs is our attention and how we response to it. it can be in front of eyes at any moment but at that time some extra care is need to be present there with us.
some efforts are also needed there as our heart should have maximum greed for that and love should be there, so that we can do any thing for that. sometimes it doesn't comes but wait and patience is required at that moment. so be calm and relaxed but attentiveness and care should not forgotten at any moment.
it will be with us aill be as i have.

Memory for Success

2008-09-10T11:09:00.000-07:00

"What role does memory plays in success"

I was thinking about how the memory works and some point came in mind too reach my success or destination. memory is an important aspect for life and reaching its goals too.

I starts from how the memory works ?

It depends on us how we want to learn , if we learn any topic or any point by soully concentrating mind in that topic then it will not get forgetten by us easily. but here a point also matters for how much time we want that topic in our course of duration that for how much time we want that topic not to be forgotten by us.

memory works like a pencil if that pencil left impression dark then it will be remove from the page after a long time but if work done with that is light then it will be removed soon.

some points which are recently read might get forget by us on the same date but if read carefully and topic is of our intrest then might be whole topic will be there in mind. but if however the topic is not intrested then also the topic is there in mind but recalling would be difficult. then we need to have a look.

some part of the memory remain always in active state due to its regular and unlimited use. but if memory at that end too start working by own then mental disorder will occur.

sentiments also plays an important role in reminding things, if anything occured with joy, sorrow, love, anger , etc then that thing will be there in mind forever and if any situation like that occurs again accidently then that whole topic will get rewind by itself. you don't even have to think of reminding that.

memory never looses what it has once, what it needs is only rivison

What i have FOUND about MEMORY

memory is network of chain, or it works as a chain. if all notes of it are tight and have strength in it (that depends upon its manufacturing material and method) if one note of chain is weaker then the next part of chain will get affected by its own. but it doesn't mean that that next part is waste that will come in use for sure if make in use.

pictures or images are best way of learning and calling any topic, but it also needs full attention with it because some point then too get neglected at that time might cause the full picture not to come back in full in front of memory.

if memory works like underlines then lines get darken by regularly underlining that line that is rivison is emphasised.

please tell me what you think about memory work, and if i am left with anyview the please do suggest me,

My thoughts

2008-09-04T19:45:00.000-07:00

"A man with bad temper is rellyy angry with himself"

what i think, anybody who always remain in anger needs lots of love and food. because when he/she is frustated or or not able to slve any problem then anger comes by itself. when nobodylistens him then anger comes . so to stop that anger give lots of care and love to him.

"love is the key to win anything"

Whose success is this ?

2008-09-03T11:49:00.000-07:00

today i want to share my thoughts which are going inside me in these days, i am totally feeling my self unable to do any thing for their help.

tell me, if a lady's husband drinks and he beats his wife and say bad about her parents and even to the extent of making her relation with those who are going on roads, so what will be the condition of that lady. can anybody imagine what she has to face every day, how she is living with him. (i know if she was in some other country than INDIA, then she might have made a new relation but here she has to think about her parents, rituals and culure, INDIA is still a country where a divorced lady has to face many words of relatives and neighbourer. even if every body knows what is the condition of her husband still then they would say the girl might have some problem.) what she thinks, what she wants nobody hears but what others want she has to do. it looks like that every body is imposing their thoughts or wants on her. but somewhere i thinks too confidence can let her to her destiny. do what is right.

similarly, what would be the condition of her child, if the child is so sensitive that he can understand at the age of 4 only. that small child has done anything wrong, what is his guilt. he donot want anything except love of his parents. some of his words " mummy would both of you will leave me alone forever, and would i have to saty alone" " dont you love me mummy" and at the same time his drunked dad is sleeping with him, who don't know anyting except that sleep. that loving and so pure kid has not done anything and has to face so many probems at that moment of age where he needs high attention.

what the mother has to do , please favour me to help her. and give your full response so that if you have any more query so that i can tell you more tohelp them.

2008-08-30T22:58:00.000-07:00

Communication Is a Two-way Street

"A conversation is the process of alternating outflowing and inflowing communication."

"There is a basic rule here:

"HE WHO WOULD OUTFLOW MUST ALSO INFLOW.

HE WHO WOULD INFLOW MUST ALSO OUTFLOW.

When we find this rule overbalanced, in either direction, we discover difficulty.

A person who is only outflowing communication is actually not communicating at all, in the fullest sense of the word. For in order to communicate entirely, he would have to inflow as well as outflow. A person who is inflowing communication entirely is, again, out of order For if he would inflow he must then outflow.

carefully listening is a skill many people never learn. They find it difficult to listen. Yet if you never master this important communication skill, people do not like to talk to you.You fail to skillfully inflow communication if you have one or more of these bad habits.

Ten Bad Listening Habbits

1. Appearing to listen. You nod, you smile, you agree with everything people say. But you don't hear a word. But the game is over when you ask a question about something the person already answered.

2. Resistance. You find ways to change the subject, distract the speaker or forbid discussion of a topic. Resistance simply puts off an inevitable confrontation.

3. Selective hearing. Tuning out or filtering out what you don't want to hear. It takes a lot of practice to filter out certain topics, but some people do it well. For example, a boss gives an order and a suggestion. The employee hears the order but tunes out the suggestion. The employee describes a productivity problem and hints about a raise. The boss focuses on the production problem and never hears the hint.

4. Calculating while listening. Forming an answer. Working out a response. Thinking of ways to escape. You are less interested in what the person has to say than in what you will be saying or doing next.

5. Cutting in. You listen to some of the data, jump to a conclusion and cut the person off. Or maybe you interrupt with a question or abruptly change the subject. If you do this, you not only upset people, you often reach the wrong conclusion. When you cut people off, they feel you do not give a darn about them.

6. Spacing out. Day dreaming, drifting off, thinking of something else. Because you can listen twice as fast as people can speak, you get bored. You make the person feel unimportant.

7. Interpreting everything. You can't take information at face value so you look for hidden meanings. "So when you say that you won't help me, are you really saying you don't like me?" "Because you won't buy from me, does that mean you think I'm a crook?" "Are you actually angry but just being polite?"

8. Listening with an attitude. Instead of simply listening, you feel pressed for time or angry or unhappy. Maybe you do not believe the speaker. Regardless, you send body language. The speaker is distracted and fails to say what he or she wants to say.

9. Equating what people say to something else. Examples: A friend talks about his money problems while you think about your own money problems. Your spouse talks about taking a vacation while you think about asking your boss for time off.

10. Story topping. Cutting people off to tell them your better idea or more interesting experience. For example, someone says, "I met the mayor last night . . ." and you jump in and say, "Did I tell you about the time I met the governor?" It's hard for you to ever let others be more important, more knowledgeable or more interesting than you. One Great Listening Habit

"Happiness is power and power is being able to do what one is doing when one is doing it."

If you really want to be a great listener, you sit there and do nothing else except listen. You treat the person's communication as the most important communication you have ever received. Say to yourself, "Right now, there is not one thing more important than truly understanding this person." Look at the person with no other thought in mind. Make good eye contact. Get completely focused. Do nothing but listen.

Recommendations

1. Notice how people listen to each other this week. Find three of the bad listening habits and what happens as a result.

2. For all conversations you have this week, give 100% of your attention to the person. Understand what they say exactly. Notice their reactions.

3. To see the difference, consciously use one or more of the bad habits, instead of carefully listening, and notice how people react.

life's thoughts

2008-08-28T10:49:00.000-07:00

life is like a leaf , what i thought today while travelling in the bus.

when i was coming back from the college, i torned some leaves from a tree and started waiting for the bus to come. i at that time started torning the leaves from it's nearest branch (or i don't know the exact term for that part). what i realised while doing that, was something that left an impression on my mind about truth of life.

at that time, i was handling that leaves so i was the owner or user of that. i was the one who can use them in decoration or thrugh that in waste. i started torning that slowly and heared the voice of leaves as they were asking not to torn them, they were requesting me not to torn them, but as i want i did that (i.e i torned them) at the same instance, my mind striked me and told this is the way when god wants our life back from us then he doesn't wait for anything. he must have planned further for good of us or of others. he similarly did like us as an owner of anything having the right to destroy or to remain us alive for furte life. it is in his hands, we are just like a toy of his hands, playing our roles and if work or play completed then our game is over and he pulls us back for his love.

for what we are maknig haste or why somebody is killing other in any way, he is the supreme having all's threads and waiting for our finishing time. so live good , play nice roles that is the way of success.

what i felt .

2008-08-26T09:56:00.000-07:00

These days, i am staying little away from my friends, i don't know what has happened with me. i want to remain alone and want to give time to my self more than others, but somewhere i am realising this too, that i am not managing anything, i am learning managing skills from my experiences. these days might be bad, i am alone and not meeting and talking with others but i am understanding self and others. that is a good point, i am learning how we have to live in this world. show your sminling face to everyone and take help from that who helps others.

all looks like animals only fulfilling their needs and stomach, to me. but instead of all this a face or a true face is coming infront of me.

as i take example of my friend, who wants to meet me because of completing his wish of roaming around on roads or in parks. only for that. and somewhere i look everyone in greed including my self as i am writing this to make people and be emotional to me. but i don't want that too. i donot want anybody's help and favour.

if i look from a different point of view then it seems, myself living in the world of negative thoughts and they are making me feel so.

the more and more i go beyond my thoughts or i get deep in to them, i find my self more weak and more negative towards everything. so what should i do, i should wait for the good time to come or i myself make try to make my life good and happy accepting all these things.

does i include this negativenessin my ways to success. is it benefiting me in any ways. still i am learning something from this time.

JAI SHREE RAADHE

2008-08-24T09:00:00.000-07:00

HAPPY JANAMASHTMI.

THAT IS LORD KRISHNA IS HAVING HIS BIRTHDAY, TODAY. SO SAY WITH ME

HARE RAM HARE RAM, RAM RAM HARE HARE.

HARE KRISHAN HARE KRISHAN, KRISHAN KRISHAN HARE HARE.

Birth of Lord Krishna
Janmashtami is celebrated to welcome and enjoy Lord Krishna's birth. The birth of Lord Krishna took place when the various planets were in auspicious places. It is said that God chooses a particular time, as to when he will take birth as a human and the planetary systems are adjusted accordingly.

Auspicious Nakshatra (Constellation)

Around the time of Bhagwan Krishna's birth, Rohini Nakshatra was predominant as it is considered to be quite auspicious. This is so because it is under the supervision of Brahma, the creator of Universe. Sri Krishna was born in the month Of Sravana more than 5000 years ago.

Born in Dwapur Yug (Iron Age)

According to some scholars, Krishna was born on Wednesday,the eighth day of second fortnight in Sravana month in the year of Visvavasu around 3227 BC, also known as Dwapur Yug. July 19th 3228 BC to be more accurate. He lived for 125 years and disappeared on February 18th 3102 BC on the new moon night of Phalguna. His death was the onset of the current corrupt age known as Kaliyug.

Universal Happiness of all Forms of Life

From the time, Devki conceived Sri Krishna, she began to glow and exude divine light. The prison walls glowed with the aura of the new born infant. Atmosphere of peace and happiness prevailed all over, Forests were all green and full of trees with all kinds of beautiful flowers, rivers were all swollen due to joy, peacocks began to dance in sheer joy, people in all villages started being happy.

Objective of Krishna's Birth

The main objective of Lord Krishna's birth was to free Mother Earth from the wickedness of demons. Playing an important part in Mahabharata (legendary battle in Kurukshetra) and propagating the theory of bhakti and good karma were other important objectives.

Events Before The Birth of Sri Krishna

The people of Mathura were extremely unhappy with the wicked king Kansa who put his father, king Ugrasen in prison and declared himself the king of Mathura. It was to put an end to his evil ways and other demons that Lord Vishnu decided to take birth on Earth in human form. According to Akashvani (heavenly voice) at the wedding of his beloved sister Devki, Kansa got to know that the eighth child of his sister will take birth to kill him. So, in turn he rushed to kill his sister. Kansa gave up the idea of killing after being assured by Vasudev that he will handover all his children to him. He put them in Prison. Kansa killed all the six infants as soon as they were born. The seventh child (Balram) was saved due to divine intervention, when he was transferred from Devki's womb to that of Rohini's (other wife of Vasudev).

Events During the Birth of Lord Krishna

Lord Krishna was born in a prison cell in the captivity of King Kansa. He took birth in divine form with lotus like eyes,his palms bearing the signs of a lotus and discus. He had a swastika sign on his sole. Wearing a yellow colored silk cloth, adorned with precious diamond earrings and a crown made of emeralds. Soon after the birth, a chain of events astonished Vasudev,when he saw the gates of the cell flow open and all the guards fast asleep. He immediately thought of Nand ,his close friend in Gokul and decided to handover his child to him in order to save him from the clutch of Kansa.

River Yamuna Bows To The Feet of Sri Krishna

The night of birth was witnessed by heavy rains which led to River Yamuna being in floods. As soon as the feet of Lord immersed in the river, the flow became normal and Yamuna made way for the Lord. Sheshnag, the serpent formed an umbrella to save the new born baby from rain.

Exchange of the Babies

Vasudev kept his child next to fast asleep Yashoda and took the baby girl lying with him back to Mathura. The baby girl is believed to be the sister of Lord Vishnu.

Disappearance of The Divine Child

On hearing the news of birth of the eighth child of Devki and Vasudev, Kansa rushed to the prison-cell and lifted the baby girl to kill her despite pleadings from Devki. However, instead of hitting the stone, the child flew up in the air and announced that the annihilator of Kansa was born and in safe hands.Krishna later grew in Gokul and finally killed his maternal uncle, King Kansa.

LOVE

2008-08-22T11:21:00.000-07:00

"We are born for love, it is the principle of existence, and its only end."
including love in success hears and looks odd to me also, but i thought a lot that love is the only purpose of life and loving is the beginning of every thing and it is the only end of life too. today, i want to write some things related to me, it would not be intresting somewhere but it would be relating some of us in many ways. it might be bringing some of us towards success and would be taking away from success.
i have met many people in my life yet, but non of that has taken special space in my heart. cause i have not given any space to tham in my heart. i was involved with many of then in many work, in many parties, in many get togethers too. nut i felt apart and aside of them many times, because i fet what we will gain from these things or meetings but what now i reliazes at this moment of life that, all things are waste except being with friends, being in love with all, and meeeting with friends and laughing with them is the only soul purpose of life somewhere.
i many a times also thought that, i will live my life in this way or that way but, this only gave tension and waste of time to me cause to learn life is id to live life's every moment with joy. cause we all will get departed someday, sometime but the only thing which will be left with us will be, only and only the talks and fun which we made with our friends.
ealier i used to live with every thing like i am passing my own time, i thought that i am clever and can do every thing,. but what these all gave to me is nothing just waste of my own life's precious time. cause it was in habbit of mine, which i reliased now. i reliased and came to know about self, knowing myself is like a mirror of my own image. what i feel now that i am running alone in a race course. running like a player who don't have any competitor, who don't have anyone behind him for his buck up. it seems like confusing words but need a lot of presence of mind, some may think i am a confused one. but i am not that, i am in also in those who want loe and its sharing with everyone.
i have used "i" many times in my sentences above, this shows that i am staying in my self. lol. making my self more complexive in nature and all these brings me to a conclusion of loving some but soully and every moment of life.
what you think am i fully expressing my self or not. expressing is knowing self and others.

CRUELTY CONTINUES

2008-08-19T09:15:00.000-07:00

In the earlier post i was writing about how cruelty is and how it is to be handle.

i think what all matters is to understanding and ability to get aware of self power. i think self power and anger changes into creulty. cause all these are bounded in chain. all will come together, but one who manages them slowly and confidently is the ruler of self.

sometimes cruelty also comes in mind when one doesn't get his part of love and affection from anyone. cause everyone needs love example THE HITLER was also in need of love, he was very much attracted toward his loving wife. he was in love withhis own country, but might be his way of thinking may be diferent.

cruelty lies in heart of army men but for the enemy of the country, cause love is there for their own country. being cruel is not bad but if it is for the benfit of others only.

All cruelty springs from weakness

2008-08-17T02:25:00.000-07:00

All cruelty comes from weakness, this is true because when don't know how to handle a situation then anger arise by itself, and angry one cannot solve any problem. only if it happens then he must be knowing that how to handle a problem.

Anger is the cause of cruelty that we all know, but i want to add a thing more here that having patience is the only solution for any problem. if i take example:- as a mother caring her son, she sometimes also gives slaps to the baby. when a child comes in age of 4-10 then she/he ask for something and she/he does not get that thing then she/he start srying for that on public places or at malls somewhere, then she might give a slap to her children to behave properly. all that , i want to say that sometimes she must not be knowing how to solve or handle a problem. that's why she acts in anger. and many situations are there for many men and women, not knowing there own persona.

if a person knows his own persona then he will act in different manner in different situation. i think he should know his self, his properties, etc. because knowing self also led to know others. so not to change the topic. i believe that cruelty word is not made for mothers cause they know love only, cause in their cruelty her good nature is hidden.

cruel are those who don't know how to use mind. a well educated person would always remain calm and soft. where as an illiterate person will act in cruel way always. i will continue this topic later..............................................................

My thoughts

2008-08-14T23:48:00.000-07:00

"WHAT WE LEARN WITH PLEASURE, WE NEVER FORGET."

We learn many things many times and if a person is addictive of learning new things every moment then will surely find something to learn.

i think every one who is human being and able to understand anything, will surely have and will like to learn anything everytime. every time anything new, anything to do cause anyone cannot stop his/her will or mind thinking except those who do the practice of concentration and yoga or some exercises. if i take example of anyone from the beginning of the day as he/she would like to go to see the new morning (cause we want something new), after that some tea or refreshment(in that too some learning are there), after bathing to job or somewhere to find something new(only to learn ) anyone watching anything, doing anywork, talking to anyone learns a new thing.

that's why i think learning is the only purpose of life. but what i discussed earlier is in the habbits of our. but if we do that habbit with pleasure then we will surely find something new and we will surely progress in life.

every new word bring us close to our aim but if we have faith and pleasure in that word.

WHO IS BRAVE

2008-08-13T23:49:00.000-07:00

"HE IS BRAVE WHO CONQUERS ANOTHER,BUT WHO CONQUERS HIMSELF IS SUPREMELY NOBLE."

sometimes these sentences looks so heavy, that they can't be gulped up by anyone easily. even sometimes i think, what i am writing is correct ? and i ask myself that i understand these words or not. teaching and telling others is very easy but implementing on self is difficult.

so , i checked my self many times am i going on my way or not.

i noted many things about self, then i came to know that i am doing and on my way. what i see that i have to go on on my way for full development and success. questioning self is very important.

so here is the answer of above line winning self is the noble and answer is questuion yourself where you stand in true world? what you are doing?

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SUCCESS IS HABBIT

2008-08-11T09:46:00.000-07:00

IS THE SUCCESS A HABBIT OR MORE THAN THAT,

asking this type of questions looks stupidity sometimes, but if anybody thinks and have a look about this topic then he/she would surely shake his/her head once. cause success is not only attaining the destiny once it is also maintaining that stage or position. being in that stage is also important because if someone relaxes at that stage then he/she would surely loose that position sometime.

habbit is also needed at eery point of life if i take a short example of regular and ddaily habbits as if any person exercises daily but he left that for a month or more then in between of his daily routine then his physical aility to fight against many things like pollution, dust molecule will get diminish and he would get ill soon. so this is a simple example from life.

being in habbit of success also make s us able to move further from our previous and present position. it makes us able to fight and in the state of flow, which brings self confidence and a kind of happiness in us.

love the path of success, love success is the only way for being a successful person. if i am wrong at anypoint then do tell me.

VOW FOR OTHERS OR SELF

2008-08-09T22:37:00.000-07:00

"DO NOT TAKE A VOW, YOU MIGHT BREAK IT TOMMOROW.JUST TRY NOT TO DO IT AGAIN"

I want to know that vows or promises are made for self or others. as an exmaple a drunked person promises that he will not drink again in life, but every body knows that he will surely break his vow. so qwhy these promises are made for. another example if i takes it on me too, i promised a week later to myself that i will not do a thing which harms my health in any way, but i did it yesterday. so what i am doing, yes i am breaking my own promise which was given to myself. i also knows that it brings my self confidence down.

what i need to do is to try and try at every movement of mine, and i have to take a step against in against of my own habbit. so that i can figh with that. only thing is needed is self confidence which increase by practicing hard.there is a thiing in ourselves that is will power, and it also increases by practice. sonever stop to fight with your disability or against that whome you want to win.

it is now making us not able to win and by practicing hard we will not make it win and it will loose by itself every next time. so being strong from is the only medicing and that brings success.

BE A FISH FOR AIM

2008-08-08T22:15:00.000-07:00

"Be a fish, which cannot live without water" similarly if we become like it, if we make us like it toward our work for being a successful person then no one would be there to stop us.

thinking aim as breath. and breathing everytime for aim will surely lead us towards success.

share your views, so that i can be more clear to explain.

SLOW AND STEADY TOWARDS SUCCESS

2008-08-08T22:00:00.000-07:00

To get success, some guys do many efforts but they donot reach their destiny, cause might be their negligence.

As i take example of myself, what i used to do was panic in everything as whie eating i used to eat very fastly, if any work is given to me then i try to do that very fastly and even when i was at examination chamber, i used to make so hurry in my work that sometimes i forget many points of the topic and many things like making border lines, underlining major steps, or sentences. this is a part of negligence. so, i learnt now, to handle anything asily and slowly cause it makes things perfect and accurate. being hasty makes more confusion, makes unable to handle easy things more difficult. so i decided not to being a hasty person. it drops down personality and makes a confusing personality.

"I NOW BELIEVE IF YOU WANT TO CHANGE YOUR PATH TO SUCCESS THEN YOU HAVE TO BE ACCURATE AND STEADY. HABBIT OF THAT WILL MAKE BYITSELF FAST. "

WHAT YOU THINK, AM I RIGHT ?

THOUGHTS OF MINE

2008-08-07T21:09:00.000-07:00

" TO DO FOR THE WORLD MORE THAN THE WORLD DOES FOR YOU, THAT IS SUCCESS"

Is this sentence provokes you or force you to do something for others. i have been on these words, and used to of these too. i realize that while following this, no body will be with you. only you will be there on your path. others will come and go, they will make use of yous but when you will go to them for your help, they will not help. at that time you might get angry and think of being as they are. but later you will realize that they were always wrong and you was true.

follow your path, they will surely come back to you for your help, for you favor , and you will see you will surely help you cause it is your nature. so be that god will be with you. as i experience him he is always with me.

Define yourself

2008-08-07T11:03:00.000-07:00

Is there anything which can fully define you, other than you or is there anyone who can define you better than yourself, yes I agree this sentences cause, if a person knows himself then there would be a genious.but actually there are one of many who is anle to do so.
yes i am talking about friends they can tell what you are in a taunting way, in joks, in every thing they share with you. this is another way of getting success in knowing self.
sometimes the friends may not be person, it may be pet of yours, may be books of yours, may be blog of yours where you write yourself. and i think there must be a friend with us in anyform, if it is not then we will not be able to live.
Make your own way. a new slogan of mine.

living successfully

2008-08-05T02:16:00.000-07:00

Our lives will continue to be messy, full of sorrows and unhappiness until we learn how to get rid of this "I" and "My".
for living successfully, we have to follow some passionate way or live like life flows on or there might be many ways like living courageouly, proudly. but if we always think somebody will come and change our lives then we are wrong. we have to change for living differently. live in that way in which you want to live. but there are some difficulties or many things which will stp you to go or achive success in that way too. so living any type of life needs that much force inside that can lead you toward success.
changing the way in between will always cause occurance of sorrow for further life. we have to follow that selected way by us, that will byitself bring happiness to you and many awards too but that might be before sorrow or after it. the only thing we need is to sticking ability and hard heart somewhere for any pain.
actually waht i think if we start learning about how to live life then we can'tlive life fully. so be in the pool of life and start swimming in that, if swimming ability is not with us then it will come by own.
There are times too when someone in the way meets with us and walk with us and thoughts interchanges, so the reason for meeting with them is to interchnge knowledge and loving them cause they are teachers and friends like god to handle many unknown situations together.
living and loving life is also the ability, which is gained by some of us after hard practice or after watching many difficult conditions. loving life is also a very important aspect of life and giving love to others is the only reason to learning successfully any way.
so never have the feeling of "I" or "My" cause it departs us from the way and with those friends who were with us on that way of being successful.

follow the path which is legal

2008-08-02T23:53:00.000-07:00

sometimes we think of finding shortcut for getting success and sometimes somebody may won on that path too.

but his/her's stability at that point would be for a small time cause behind this is that he/she does'nt know varioius steps which have been missed. that steps or stages are for learning new and great thing like experience. Reaching the aim is not only a part of success, staying and maintaining that stage with self is very much difficult and needs proper care too.

for example:- a new building is made but after few years it will need maintainance, if that is not done at time then anything can happen which may cause heavy loss anytime.

following the legality is must, as illegal ways are easier for theives but later they came to know or realizes what they have become. so why to live in scare, live like a king who watch every knows every moment in his premises although he might be out of that.

be active and work constantly for success, dont follow shortcuts.

My thoughts

2008-08-01T22:43:00.000-07:00

Pain, grief, sorrow and misery are the fruits of which passion is the flower.
i dont belive on this line cause now a days only make the thing attractive. it will be easily sell in the market. now everyone loves attraction.

Success in love continues.......

2008-08-01T10:33:00.000-07:00

What today I learnt from one, is that never to say or show your loving emotions to beloved one too much, because sometimes she might get anger from that. but showing love is the way or manner in which a boy usually shows his love to his beloved.
major thing what i think is the understanding which must be there in between two. but this is only a love which is being showed.
success in love not lies sometimes in telling your beloved one each and every feeling of yours, but some feelings must be there in yourself too for keeping safe u inside and increase the taste of love. for making you good for your beloved one. knowing all about beloved one is first step of love towards its success. although love doesn't think about loss or gain. it is only love. only in beloved thoughts. that you become her and she becomes you. this is true successful stage. and if you become what your beloved one want you to be, then it is also a success.
being in love for other will make you feel like heaven, it will be heaven. you will not aware of yourself what you would be. staying in her or his thoughts will make you sometime mad. but that madness if true and from truth of your mind then that will be a success. so love other from heart of yours, living life will be better and awsome. what you think.

Is this a success of love

2008-07-31T22:46:00.000-07:00

In this blog, i want to discuss about the nature or behaviour of many about their precious love. i am telling that what i think, now a days some guy believe that loving is girl is only to the extent of taking her to the bedroom and nothing else. they treat her first very nicely and softly. they show care for her and then many things occurs which true love doesn't need. i as a boy belive that girls initially act too softly and too ignore may things of her boyfriend's too but later they also start enjoying that what her boyfriend do. and what boys do all knows that they leave or break the relation. but i do agree for that, there are some guys too who are ready to do further relation as beyond to marriage and they also show extreem of there love too.
but what i see in previous type of love which i discussed earlier is not true anywhere, it is based on the floor of lie.
i have an example of one of my friend who loves a girl and she too loves her. they have true love. they meet smetimes, and sometimes they only see eachother from a distance but their eyes do meet. in this they are happy and they do not think about future cause they want to love each moment they spent or spend tpgether. in my view this is true love.
love is all around us but guys or girls thinks that, it can be boundede more efficiently by having that relationship which can make their life hell later. they just want to enjoy that moments. they can't and dont have control on their own emotions. but why these situations arises. we have to find that and solve that too.
so being a writer or a blogger, i want to say somelines.
love satys in eyes, love grows in heart.
love stays in breath, love flows in nerves.
and life of lover stays in soul of beloved.
living with true love might be very hard then that love which is based on lie.

now a days all want to spend their time with their beloved one, some do that on phone, in resturant or somewhere else.

Leave yourself and live

2008-07-30T00:14:00.000-07:00

leave yourself and then live the life you have with you.
Find what you have then with you. if you find something that is the real thing you can carry with your soul. nothing except that. you will surely have the feeling of free from every connection. This is another way of being going in deep of work, love, success. if this stage is achieved then your every moment will be full of joy anfd fun. cause you dont have to think about yourself.
If i tell about me, what i like or feel after going in depth of music while playing or listening is free from conciousness of mind. that stage is of being unconcious from every thing. But it can also led to being unware of or irresponsible of work. so be aware of that too. this can be for relaxing yur mind and body. as i listen qawali of Nusrat fateh ali khan, Rahat fateh ali khan, and of Farid, Bulleh shah. and of many sufi singer. this also leds me to towards success. but this path is what i like. so you may have different interest. enjoy of being in that interest. freeeing yourself from you is the major thing i am stressing about. if you want to know about this then have a look at this http://lovewithgod.blog.co.uk/

SUCCESS LOVES SUCCESS

2008-07-29T05:15:00.000-07:00

This is true and it is the law of nature that success loves success. the reason behind this is if anyone grows then he/she never thinks of moving back form his/her 's present position. this can be called as a flow or a flow of a river, whose every wave moves froward it doesn't think of moving back.
similar in the case of growing person. for getting successful a person can take help of that who has been succesful by efforts. but in this way some or few gets success cause it is copying and copying has to face some problems as copying doesn't requires self efforts.
so better way can be think like how a successfull peson thought and then do all efforts again with practice, try to find new ideas which could be better then the past one. be relaxed but creative with every next second. add your own taste in that and love your work differently. only in rthis way the copying will work with many new great ideas.
Another way, do that which others do not want to do. do that efficently. take first step of accepting the responsibility. if you move one single step towards success then success will also move one or more step towards you. so in this way success loves itself.

What about their success if seen

2008-07-27T23:35:00.000-07:00

We always want success and do anything for getting and we have to do. but what you think if it is for a prostitute. prostitutes might earn good income or makes good money in developed country but those country as such which are growing or developing. at that place, they only d their business for their hungry stomach. they want to earn for their living. they do just for their need. can you say in this, that they are doing for their success. no not at all. so being prostitute for them is not wrong because there they do not have anyother work to do. similar in case of bar dancer as in many cities. some guys go for their relaxation but are the dancer going for their fun. no not at all.

so being in wrong path for them is not wrong cause they are right somewhere too. if i say in terms of saints then their will also be good, they can also have heaven cause they also have right.

If I add some words for a normal man who is doing work somewhere in corporate world or company. There too, you can see guys going behind some seniors for their success. they do buttering or some kind of tings to have higher post in their company.

so can you imagine how a prostitute can think of enjoying success that is real in terms of her's.

living life for them sometimes look like a hell. so we can say there is both hell and heaven on earth. there is nothing lies above these sky.

but if we like to live our life in a good way then we have to live with good behaviour and helping nature for the betterment of life of others. so being any kind of person, if we just think of about being a good person. we can attain any type of success but it will take time. cause every god thing takes time to happen.

what you say, plz reply.

Scale for measurement of Emotions

2008-07-26T22:12:00.000-07:00

It may be a scale for measuring emotions but real measurement lies inside you or youself.
The Emotional Tone Scale is a powerful tool that gives you dozens of benefits.
For example, you can use the tone scale to:-
● Make people feel more comfortable with you● Predict how people will react to various situations● Understand why some people pull you down● Improve your ability to get agreement from people● Better understand yourself ● Know who you can trust and who you should not trust● Increase your concentration and reaction time● Motivate yourself and others● Make yourself into a saner, better person.
The top of the tone scale includes the more positive emotions and the bottom of the scale lists the undesirable emotions.
"The Emotional Tone Scale"
4.0 Enthusiasm
3.5 Cheerfulness
3.0 Conservatism
2.5 Boredom
2.0 Antagonism
1.8 Pain
1.5 Anger
1.1 Covert Hostility
1.0 Fear
0.9 Sympathy
0.5 Grief
0.05 Apathy
0.0 Body Death.
The higher the individual is upon the Tone Scale, the better chance he has of obtaining the wherewithal* of living, the happier he is, the healthier his body will be." (*wherewithal = financial needs)
When you are high on the tone scale, you not only feel happier and healthier, you are interested in everything around you. You are alert, clear-headed and energetic. People enjoy being around you as you are trustworthy, responsible and genuinely cheerful.
Actually a person fluctuates on this scale from hour to hour and day to day. He receives good news, he goes momentarily to Tone 3.0. He receives bad news, he may sink for a moment to Tone 1.0. He falls in love and for a month he is at level 3.5. His girl leaves him and for a week he is at Tone 0.5. When he is very young he rides around Tone 3.5. As he grows older, his tone drifts down to 2.5. As an old man, he may drift down to 0.0 and death, either slowly or swiftly."Where Are You on the Tone Scale?
identify your tone level.
0.05 Apathy: You do not care about yourself or others. You are always ill. Nothing seems real. You cannot face the past and do not care about the future. You lie to get sympathy. You want people to pity you. You feel lost and unimportant.
1.0 Fear: Life seems dangerous and serious. You are frequently sick. You cannot make decisions. You wonder what is real and what is unreal. You assume people want to hurt you. You do not take responsibility and you lie to avoid any type of confrontation.
1.1 Covert Hostility. You are similar to a person in fear, but you also have hostility. Because you are afraid, you cover up your hostility. As well as lying to people, you stab them in the back. You are devious, underhanded and like to gossip.
1.5 Anger: You openly show your hostility. You are "right" about everything. You attack people, verbally or physically. You use threats, punishment and alarming lies to dominate others. You are a coward, but will use unreasonable bravery to hurt yourself or others.
2.0 Antagonism: You feel irritated much of the day. Your illnesses are severe. You assume the worst in people; you find it difficult to trust anyone. Instead of trying to help people succeed, you prefer to just stop them. You are a critic.
2.5 Boredom: While you are not angry or opposed to others, you are not interested in them either. You are occasionally ill. You are indifferent, careless and insincere. You give up if anything gets in your way. You are not creative, but not destructive either.
3.0 Conservatism: You are mildly interested in life. You try to tell the truth and can be trusted in most matters. You are courageous, but only if the risks are low. You are social and somewhat friendly to a small group of people.
3.5 Cheerfulness: Your interest in people is high and you try to understand them. You are capable of assuming important responsibilities. You rarely get sick. You can persist on a path to the end result. You use energy and logic to get people to do things. You like to help people.
4.0 Enthusiasm: You are creative and excited. You never get sick. You are eager to understand and help others. You are courageous in all circumstances. You gladly accept responsibility and can be trusted. You achieve your objectives, despite all opposition. Your enthusiasm is contagious; people like to follow your lead. You love life and the future looks wonderful.

Fear and Lie's relation.

2008-07-26T21:30:00.000-07:00

Sometimes, we speak lie for enjoying some movement , which leds to that way which we don't want and it also gives fear to us. we have to live in fear and remain in scare.
For example :- if i take example of myself. as i used to talk with girl who is my friend's friend. her father is an inspector in police. i sacre too of my parents too cause if anything wrong happens with anyone and if anyhow her or my parents would came to know about this then i will not able to handle that situation. this leds in myself fear and a losser behaviours enters in my head. or it makes me scare in other words.
So i decided to leave all that things which are based on lies or which keeps me in scare. I want to join that way whichis based on truth and which can bring confidence in me. this is also a way to move towards success. so never choose that way in which you feel wrong or in which heart doesn't agree your inner self to move. this is a simple example for staying away from lie and the way of losser.
Stay in the way of truth and in that which your heart agrees. live confidently and successfully.
enjoy...............
but what you think about this. you can tell about any type of relationship.

WIN IN STEPS

2008-07-25T06:27:00.000-07:00

We have seen many times, that how a baby learns to walk and then run after putting his/her steps one by one. he/she never feels tires of repeating efforts for standing and then walking. and there is also a great thing which we can learn from them is how they do not stop moving ahead even if they dont walk, they use their knees to move forward. isn't inspiring.
we have to learn from them and keep moving ahead and should enjoy each and every step of ours. we should move and keep on moving for wining success. this is the basic principle and formula.
enjoy each step if we loose or win. enjoyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy.

some thoughts of mine.

2008-07-24T07:39:00.000-07:00

Ever live within your income.

Nothing is so strong as gentleness, nothing so gentle as real strength.

As i more understand my life, i live less. and as i understand less i live more.

JUNOON

2008-07-24T07:27:00.000-07:00

JUNOON, a word which is there in soul but need love with itself. it is a type a passion or a passion for work or success. it is not needy that it can be only for work, it can be for love , can be for money earning, for being an enggineer, for being a manager. or anything , etc. if i explain this word then it is continuous work without being aware of anything going around. only thinking about that work which we are doing. if again i say that can be for anything. so having that passion can bring success easily. but attaining the stage of JUNOON is a bit difficult but not impossible. stay tunned

ENJOY THE WORK

2008-07-23T05:50:00.000-07:00

the work which we do, if we also enjoy that work then we can easily attain success. it is the simplest and easiest way to get efficient and success in work . and if there is also some love towards work is present then it becomes much easier, need presious comments of yours.

concentration on your aim

2008-07-22T19:32:00.000-07:00

aim concentration is very much required for getting success. cause there are many things which will or may diverge us for making us unable to reach to our defined destiny. and te most important is is the defined destiny that should always be in mind for achieving that.
divergence can be of any type as body is not fit for work, mind is not stable,house dsputes, or disputes with friend. anger and many things like that. but these all things capture or attacks us when we donot make our innerself strong. to keep all these away from our way for aim. doing regular exercise and and keep the anger away from self. and for building innerself , we can meditate, we can do yoga. i am not telling to join any classes. do it at home, for ten minutes but regularity should be maintained.
staying fit from every point is necessary but aim should not be left by any cause. for whih concentration is needed. comment me for adding new concepts too about gaining success.

law of universe for success

2008-07-20T22:46:00.000-07:00

What the Universe Gives YouWhere do you spend your energy?
Do you use it yelling at your spouse? Surfing the web? Watching television?
Or do you spend your energy working hard? Helping people? Learning new things?"
That which a person works hardest on, he winds up having. That's one of the fundamentals of this universe. That to which he devotes energy, he finally has." -- L. Ron Hubbard
For example, if you spend your energy on parties or sporting events, you end with memories of parties or sporting events. If you work hardest at making your enemies wrong, you end with enemies who are wrong. If you spend your energy worrying about being penniless, you end up being broke. If, however, you spend that same work and energy doing something that makes you money, you end up with more money. If you spend your time finding a spouse, you get a spouse. If you spend your energy learning new skills, you have new skills.How do you spend your energy? On what do you work the hardest? That is what you have, right?Recommendations
Use this simple, yet powerful idea to get what you want from life.
1. Write down three things that you want. Do you want a successful business? Love? A healthier body? More intelligence? Happiness?
2. Devote your energy just to those things. Work hardest on those and nothing else.
3. Don't be too surprised when you suddenly get them!

fight with own

2008-07-20T21:57:00.000-07:00

sometimes in the way of success, we have to fight with ourselves too. that is the most important aspect of knowing self. and we have to keep this in mind in too that all are part of our life, life should not be part of all. cause if we are not present then all will be of not of any use.
success is not only in the way of education not only in corporate world , not only in the way of earning life. it is also in earning life, it is in the way of earning self conciousness.
example of this can be :- as we do work to earn money, but only making money can make our life to loose other things. so we have to manage every thing for a successful life. success should be of both that is mind and heart. you heart and mind should be happy, if it is done then we are the successful person of this whole world. stay heart and mind cool and happy.
try to understand yourself and learn something from everyone who is with you on any path. cause learning is the only real part of life and only understanding yourself is the only goal. and who attains this is the successful person. what do you think share with me ?

formula for success

2008-07-13T20:28:00.000-07:00

Success is what dreams are made of. Success is about making it in life. Fast cars, expensive penthouses, designer labels—in other words, high material viability is the new success mantra. Yet we see large hordes of people demanding to do more than that by trying to find a common denominator for success. No longer weighed in terms of tidy bank balances, success is now regarded as all-inclusive quotient of material, emotional and spiritual gratification. Belying Alvin Toffler's apocalyptic cry against capitalism and urbanization, success does not remain merely a socially abrasive economic phenomenon in a highly competitive world. Today success represents a holistic and positive attitude to life. Attitude is everything. If you think you can, you most certainly can. Success is not closeted within some kind of brick and mortar premises. It assumes the individuality of a complete act executed with perfection. Material achievements do not define life. We do not remember the sports stars for the products they endorse but the spirit of achievement they represent. In the abundance of positive attitude underlies the grandeur of a truly rewarding and rich life. Ancient Indian wisdom believes that the most qualifying aspect of success lies in following the four Purusharthas( tenets) of life. The Purusharthas are based on the four tenets of artha (wealth,social security), kama (fulfillment of desire), dharma( principles)and moksha (salvation). Wealth or artha means earthly possessions and material gains. People usually work hard to procure such standards of success, and yet, find themselves wanting more. Desires condemned by puritans the world over, is motivating force behind all action that manifests as success. High moral credo or dharma is a life based on principles. However the crowning glory to successful life is moksha or freedom from all desires. Artha, kama, dharma and moksha patterns a rite of passage for an adult life. According to Indian thought, success depends upon the smooth transition of an individual through each of these passages. However, the culture factor definitely influences the success expectation among a people

for success, remove worries

2008-07-13T03:54:00.000-07:00

worries makes ourself weak from inside. it losses our inner strength. as an example
There has never been a better time for worry. We have problems everywhere: rising gas prices, falling stock markets, fires, floods, wars and potential wars.
According to the news, we are seeing more financial problems, more home foreclosures and more people going broke than ever before. "They" say we are very worried.
Symptoms of Anxiety
* You worry about everything, big things, little things, imaginary things* You are afraid of making mistakes* You find it hard to make decisions* You feel nervous for no reason* You feel dizzy or weak or tired* You imagine the worst* Your body is tense* You sleep poorly
Three Popular, but Bad Solutions
1. You visit your doctor and get a prescription for some anti-anxiety medication. After a few weeks, you may or may not feel calmer.
However, you dislike adding chemicals to your body. You don't want the side effects. You hate needing a drug for your happiness. If you quit, you feel twice as anxious as before.
2. You visit your local bar or liquor cabinet. After a drink or two you feel calm.
Alcohol has the same disadvantages. You hurt your liver or become an alcoholic. The next day, your head hurts and you still feel worried. You wish your happiness did not come from a bottle.
3. You go to a hypnotist or buy "subliminal" tapes that give you commands while you sleep. If you can go under, you feel calmer after the sessions.
But again, you hate not being in control of your feelings, good or bad. Your anxiety comes back in new forms. You wonder what other commands the hypnotist gave to you.
One Simple, Powerful Solution
By making one easy change in your lifestyle, you can significantly reduce your stress and anxiety. All you do is stop listening to certain people! You ignore the Merchants (sellers, distributors) of Chaos (disorder, confusion).
"It is to their [the Chaos Merchants'] interest to make the environment seem as threatening as possible for only then can they profit."
"Look over a newspaper. Is there anything good on the front page? Rather there is murder and sudden death, disagreement and catastrophe. And even that, bad as it is, is sensationalized to make it seem worse." -- L. Ron Hubbard
Anyone who profits, by making the world seem worse than it is, is a Chaos Merchant.
For example, a politician makes crime seem like a bigger problem than anyone ever thought it was. He promises to fight crime better than his opponent. He wins if he scares enough people.
An arms dealer tells one country, "This country has secretly purchased some bombs and has pointed them at you. You need to buy some bombs and point them at their capital."
Certain lawyers are Chaos Merchants. For example, they say, "A police friend of mine says they are going to investigate you and want to put you in jail. I can probably keep you out of jail, but my retainer is $75,000."
Anyone you know can be a Chaos Merchant. For example, a coworker wants you to stop getting so much done. He thinks he will get a promotion if you start to look bad. So he gives you bad news whenever possible. "I'm really worry we're all going to get fired, don't you?" "No one appreciates us." "I don't think the boss likes your attitude."
Of course, the most popular Chaos Merchants create the bad news you see on television, in newspapers and on the Internet. The more terrifying the news, the more people will listen to them or read their articles.
These Chaos Merchants make us think we have to listen to them to protect ourselves. This makes them popular and helps them make money by selling advertisements.
Recommendations
1. Stop reading newspapers and news magazines. How does knowing all the bad news help you? (Answer = it doesn't.) Just completely cut out the bad news in your life.
Instead, read cheerful articles or an interesting book.
2. Stop watching the news on television. How does it help you or anyone to know about deaths, danger and catastrophes?
Instead, watch an upbeat show or take a walk.
3. Avoid people who like to pass on disturbing "news."
Instead, spend time with people who like to pass on cheerful news.
4. After 7-10 days, notice how you have been feeling.
5. If you are not sure if the Chaos Merchants really have any effect on you, do the above steps for 7-10 days. And then go back and read the newspapers, watch the news and listen to disturbing people for a few days. Notice how you feel now.
Benefits
Nearly everyone who breaks off all association with Chaos Merchants notices benefits like these.
* You find other parts of your life are more interesting.* You notice your life feels less dangerous.* You eat better and sleep better.* You laugh more easily.* You are less afraid.* You feel healthier.* You feel calmer.
Give it a try!

point of view

2008-07-12T03:43:00.000-07:00

the basic thing which we need for being a successful person is our point of view towards our aim or destiny.
you have to keep in mind that it is we only, who decide to how to reach there. it is we only who can see our ways of work for the aim. we have see create many ideas by our mind only. as we have many points in our mind for reaching at our destiny. it can only raise our individuality.
the successful person see only success cause of his/her demamd and his nature. he flow a bit of himself towards towards the aim and all his effort by its own towards that. similarly a person who is failing doesnot see success, his/her sees failure only. because in this world, there are two things only one is positive side and the other is negative side. and we have to choose one of them. the successful see only the positive side and moves towards that, then effortlessly moves near to that. cause here is , what you see is what you know and what you know is a result of what you see. its confusing.
actually there are sycles of failure and success made byu us iin our own memeory. we have to choose and change them. it can and i will. but onl;y thing is we have to be honest with ourselves only. so ,enjoyt the cylclic process, the road to success, you deserve that and it is you own destiny. stay happy.

expectations are excuses

2008-07-11T07:43:00.000-07:00

expectations can be some times excuses in the way of your success, how it can be can bve reliased by you. it is very easy and easy to tackle by you youself.
first thing find and see what are you and try to know yourself. see on which way you are going, find you are on way of failure or success. check all your attitude toward work. what you do while working. check are you your self taking yourself towards success or failure.
or in other words, you should have knowledge about your way. if you have knowledge. by knowledge or knowing thngs ony you can lead yourself on way of success. cause behind failure is only lack of knowledge. tis knowledge you already have but your knowledge is not awaken. you have awake that only. as an example:- you know how to drive the car, but the only thing is that you dont have have knowledge and that much courage in your self for driving or handling the car. you just have to gain that and learn how to put down the gears and give acceleration.
go on the this way you will surely get success. find yur mistake and keep always on the track of succes. i would like to have more knowledge if anyone is having please do share with me.

2008-07-11T00:55:00.000-07:00

"How to Set Exciting Goals You Can Reach"
By setting exciting goals, you gain several benefits. Your work and time pays off better as you are making progress. You make smarter decisions as you recognize opportunities when they pop up.
Goals that make you passionate bring out your confidence, give you more control over the direction of your life and generate new energy. You even feel happier.

do any thing.

2008-07-11T00:19:00.000-07:00

the simple word which came in my mind, is that for attaining success do any thing. means any type of efforts will work if it is done for achieving your own goal. fight for that, stay angry, break your own heart , live alone anything .
but keep in mind that, no other should get any type of hurt from that. it is quite confusing to understand my words. but think by giving you yur own time and think yourself at other place first. if it is ok then move like an elephant for your success. this is the simple way and i think some better ways are there too but will tel later

keys to success

2008-07-08T21:59:00.000-07:00

Key to Success: 10 Success Tips for Maximum Achievement
First off, I would echo the voice of 18th century French philosopher Voltaire, made popular and relevant in today's leadership lexicon by "Good to Great" author Jim Collins, who said, "Good is the Enemy of Great."
1. "Good is the Enemy of Great." Get rid of the good to make room for the great in your life. Instead of keeping the main thing the main thing, we major in too many minor things. In other words, many people do a few things that are good, a lot of things that are mediocre, but nothing that is GREAT.
Find the ONE thing you can be the best in the world at and focus unrelentingly on improving that one thing, polishing it to perfection.
Choose great over good in ALL areas of your life! It is far better to have a few great things than a lot of good or mediocre things.
Instead of having six cheap shirts that you don't feel so great in, have one fine quality shirt that you can feel proud to wear and that makes you feel like a million bucks! Instead of having five or six ho-hum paintings to decorate your walls, invest in ONE magnificent masterpiece that leaves you breathless and enriches your soul every time you look at it! Instead of going to the usual cottage retreat every long-weekend, save up your money and go on one GREAT vacation that you've always dreamed of like going on a European boat-cruise, snorkeling in the Red Sea, or taking an art class in Paris. Instead of many mediocre friendships, have a few great friendships that energize and inspire you and that you can spend quality time fostering deeper relationships. You get the point.
Greatness is a choice! And choice is the democratic equalizer of all people. Everyone, regardless of their rank, social status or income level has the power to choose great over good.
2. Commit to an annual theme. Instead of making and breaking a number of well-wished but half-hearted New Year's Resolutions, commit to an annual or lifetime theme. Pick a theme that defines your singular life purpose or what you are most passionate about and stick to it.
For example, my theme is: "Write First!" I have this theme posted right in front of me above my computer. My purpose is to write.
I write first and ask questions later. I focus on writing (or things related to developing my writing) first and then worry about the urgent but non-important interruptions (paying bills, answering calls and emails, responding to invitations, etc.) that plague everyone. This theme takes precedence over everything else except my spiritual relationship with my Creator. The only exception to this rule would be a genuinely important priority that falls in one of my top values in life or attending to a family emergency.
Your main theme could be "Family First!" or "Health First!" or "Listen First!" or "Service Above Self." Just pick one and commit to it.
Beside your main theme, make a list of your top values such as love, health, giving, peace, wealth, etc. to ground yourself and distinguish between important and non-important but urgent matters. In his autobiography, Benjamin Franklin listed thirteen virtues (Temperance, Silence, Order, Resolution, Frugality, Industry, Sincerity, Justice, Moderation, Cleanliness, Tranquility, Chastity, and Humility) to which he governed his life and gave a week's strict attention to mastering one virtue at a time repeating the list in order every thirteen weeks.
3. Practice a policy of planned neglect. In other words, once you have established your theme or singular purpose (the one thing you can be the best in the world at) get into the habit of practicing your main habit FIRST before anything else.
Everything else that's non-important can get neglected and keep getting put-off. In other words, your daily to-do list will keep changing around your main theme which will remain constant – with very few exceptions.
4. Make a stop doing list. I'm not sure where I first heard this idea, but I borrowed it most recently from Jim Collin's book, "Good to Great." Too many people have important to-do lists that keep getting longer and longer. But very few people have 'stop-doing' lists. Make a list of everything you are doing that is not contributing to your core genius or main purpose and core values – and stop doing it! Forget about your image and what other people will think, and STOP doing what's not great in your life.
5. Be Simple. Get rid of the good to make room for the great. Literally! Get rid of the junk in your basement and file folders!
Anything you haven't touched or looked at in a year you probably need to get rid of it. Donate books and magazines you haven't read and clothes you know you're never going to wear. Empty your mind and physical space of unnecessary clutter and make room for abundance! (Daily meditation is a great way to empty the mind and allow new inspiration).
6. Make HEALTH a priority NOW! Get a full physical check-up at least once a year. If something's bothering you or you don't feel right about something, get it checked out IMMEDIATELY! Don't wait, until it's too late. Take a proactive approach to your health by taking preventative measures, eating healthy and exercising regularly. And make LOVE a top priority. If you haven't taken the time to tell your loved ones how deeply you value and love them, then make time for it now.
Are you still reading this article? WHY? Pick-up your phone, right now, and call your doctor to make that appointment! Call your loved ones now and book some real quality time together. Life is short and fragile. You may never get the chance again.
7. Dreams. The dream is a window into your soul, a gateway into the unseen world, giving access to the unknown and revealing the invisible behind all that is visible. In my book, "Psychology of the Hero Soul," (http://www.herosoul.com; Chapter 14; pg. 77) I mention the importance of dreams and how to harness your dreams to awaken your creative potential. I can't stress enough how important it is to get into the habit of jotting down your dreams and making an effort to interpret them. It is a great way to develop self-awareness and self-understanding and will enrich your life in many, many unforeseen ways.
Self-awareness and self-acceptance is so important in developing your self-esteem. Take the time to seriously ask yourself, "Who am I and what's my purpose in life?" Write down your strengths and weakness, your highest ambitions and deepest fears, and make a list of everything you enjoy doing and all your hobbies. Take some personality tests to gain deeper understanding of who you are.
8. Face the brutal facts! Never hide from reality. Always get the hard facts about any situation you are facing. It doesn't matter if you have a Harvard MBA and are the world's greatest optimist if you pick the wrong location to open up a retail business!
Likewise, face the brutal facts about yourself. If you haven't even come close to achieving your dreams and goals, you need to honestly ask yourself why you haven't reached your goals and figure out what has been preventing you. A great way to accomplish this is to ask a few friends you trust and who know you the following question: "How do you see me limiting myself?" (I have Jack Canfield to thank for this great question).
Once you have the facts and fully understand the problem, spend over eighty percent of your time focusing on the solution.
9. ASK for help! If you need help, ask for it. If you don't ask, you don't get. Ask for the sale, ask for the date, ask for support. Stop worrying about your image, reject the rejection, and ASK!
But don't just be a taker. Please also give. Earn the right to ask by being a giver. Be a generous giver because whatever you put out into the world will return multiplied. The hero's journey is about following your bliss, and doing what you love to do in service to others. "Service above self," is a great motto to adopt.
10. Take Action! In my Hero Soul book, I have dedicated an entire chapter on taking action. The great succeed by taking continuous and concerted action toward a singular objective. And they continue to take unrelenting, consistent action for a period of years before becoming overnight successes.
If you do just five new things every day towards achieving your biggest dream, you will one day be living your dream and as Thoreau once said, 'meet with a success unexpected in common hours.'
But if you aren't going to take action on the advice in this article, why the heck are you reading it? Move on to something else!
One of my favorite movies is "The Shawshank Redemption" (based on Stephen King's short story, Rita Hayworth and the Shawshank Redemption) about a successful banker, Andy Dufresne, who is convicted and sentenced to life imprisonment for the murder of his wife. I'm sure many of you have seen it.
For nineteen years Dufresne quietly chips away at his goal to escape by literally chipping the wall in his cell – a little bit every day – until one day he reaches his goal and escapes.
His jail buddy, Red, comments that all it took "was pressure and time."
I don't think I've ever seen any movie replayed so many times on TV. It really intrigued me. So I did some research and found out that according to IMDB, The Shawshank Redemption is the second most popular movie of all time with The Godfather taking first place! That's quite the accomplishment given how long The Godfather has been out.
Why is this movie so popular? I don't really know the answer. But I think it's because many people feel like they're living in a prison and have been given a life sentence to doing work they really hate. They want to break free from their shackles.
More than anything else, they want FREEDOM! And Shawshank delivers that moment of freedom. It's a beautiful story that makes the soul weep with joy and provides the hope and promise of being human.
The great thing about Shawshank is that it also provides a solution: by quietly chipping away at your main goal and consistently taking action everyday, you will achieve the success and freedom you have been longing for. With 'pressure and time' you can take the darkest coal and turn it into the most brilliant, most magnificent diamond the world has ever seen.

show emotions

2008-07-07T21:47:00.000-07:00

getting emotional is not to cry, bnot to feel sad. but it is the way to express internal thoughts. this is very necessary cause behind this is, when we react on any situation we also learn from that how we responded that situation and how we can face if that problem or situation comes again. emotions tells us what we are. what only needs our attention at the time when we are feeling anything.
let us take an example:- a person play the game of gamble, and in that game if he losses many times and wins twice or thrice then will not leave that game. sometimes he/she also fights but what all hew is doing is shwing his/her emotions in a different way. but he is not giving attention on his emotions. he/she is not giving himself any chance to think in a good way in which he/she can win or can leave that game. what he/she needs is only attention.
feeling internal emotions are very mucvh necessary. they give us time to think but we should not igore them.

first step

2008-07-07T21:33:00.000-07:00

the first according to me is to never feel tired from inside. if somebody feels and thinks himself tired from in his own self then growth can't be achieved ever. to attain success, we have to work until we get our destiny. it is not necessary that your last destiny is realy or truely the last. that may be the beginning. so never get tired from inside. because inside courage or self is the one who only can take you to the destiny or so far.
sometimes these talks or saying words looks like words only, but only these words and you yourself can bring you to any position,designation or destiny where you want to be.
there are many ways also that is to seen from many ways. so changing thoughts about the problem can also be a way but work for that is needed from our side.