Tuesday, December 23, 2008
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LOVE, it is not only just a word. for some it is feelings, love in form of greed, in form of anger, in form of sex,in form of drawing, all starts from love and ends on love. so for success, it is necessary that you should fall in love in that work in which you, might be you are with agirl, with a company or organisation, anything .
Even some of the girls who fall in the business of prostittution or any thing like that, in actual they want love. similarly those who falls in the field of drug addiction or drinking habbit, in actual they want someone who can stay with them always in their mind. so love is their medicine from which they should be treated.
Even I think that, the person who becomes rapist, they also needs true love and true direction. if they get it then their is nothing in this world that can take them to that way.
love brings satisfaction and fulfillness with self.
and attaing the position of self is attaining god in self, so love yourself and then somebody else cause loving self is also necessary it tells what is our own personality.
Sunday, October 26, 2008
If nothing ever scares you, success is easy. You never feel hesitant, shy or nervous. You take action.
However, when you do not act, it is probably because of fear.
Fear is the inability to face someone or something. You prefer to avoid it. When you cannot face an issue, it seems complicated or stressful.
For example, if you cannot talk about money with people, you have money problems. Whenever you need to ask for money or negotiate financial terms, you freeze. As a result, you earn less money.
If you are an employer, but cannot face staff conflicts, production statistics decline. Work becomes serious. Since no one resolves the staff problems, they persist while your business suffers.
Avoiding topics with your spouse is a common reason for marriage problems. Your fears block your communication. Hiding, withholding or suppressing your feelings and thoughts from your spouse is a giant leap toward divorce.
how fears are like shadows. If you reach out and take action despite your fears, you will discover how thin and weak the fears really are!
To illustrate this point, he wrote, "On Lake Tanganyika* the natives have a very interesting way of catching fish. There on the equator the sun shines straight down through the clear water. The natives take blocks of wood and string them along a long rope. They stretch this rope between two canoes and with these abreast begin to paddle towards the shoal** water. By the time they have reached the shoals, schools of fish are piled and crowded into the rocks and onto the beach. The blocks of wood on the rope make shadows which go all the way down to the bottom of the lake and the fish, seeing the approach of these shadows and the apparent solid bars which they form in the water, swim fearfully away from them and so are caught." -
Four Ways to Shine Light on Your Shadows
1. One effective method is drilling or role playing. You identify a circumstance that gives you fear. You pretend to face the situation in a role-playing exercise. Drilling allows you to discover which parts of the problem are really problems and which are simply shadows.
For example, you need to ask your boss for a raise. Before talking to him you practice the conversation with your friend. You work out some details, change your approach and work out your best possible presentation. Because you are prepared for the meeting, you are not as nervous.
2. Another method of reducing fear is to approach the problem with gradient steps. You cut the problem into smaller pieces. You successfully deal with the small parts and thus reach a full resolution.
For example, you need to fill out a 10-page government tax form. Instead of trying to take on the entire task in one day, you decide to just fill out the first page and then quit.
One page is much easier than ten pages! The next day, you decide to tackle pages two and three.
You continue like this and before you know it, you have completed the form. You have conquered your fear.
3. Talking about the fear can reduce the effects of fear. After you openly discuss it with someone who listens, the problem often feels less difficult.
For example, you are afraid of flying in an airplane. Your spouse agrees to listen to you and you spill your guts. You describe everything about flying that scares you. After a while, you decide you can fly.
talking and listening is a powerful form of therapy, when done correctly. As a result, you can completely remove your fears. For more information, click the link at the end of this article.
4. In many cases, the best approach to dealing with a fear is to close your eyes and jump in. You face the fear without any regard for your feelings and emotions. You might get nervous or even terrified, but once you take the leap, you discover the big monsters are merely shadows.
Confronting a fear can be tough, but the reward is enormous.
Succeeding, despite a fear, means you have done something you could not do before. And that is real success!
Sunday, October 19, 2008
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soon that day i start thinking about my self and describe my self to me. i took pages and wrote what i am, my intrest, my hobbies are. waht i want and waht i don't. I also noted the time i waste and utilize. this is necessary and veyr uch needy to me. I made two coloumn and then wrote my hobbies and intrest.
then i came to know, i haave intrest in many things like tennis, cricket, football, in many games that is for fun, for knowledge i like to read news paper coloumn incuding sports, politics, happening, and many knowledge providing coloumns. In movies I like to see action, sometimes fun, sometimes love and romance, emotions generally. these all told me that i am having intrest in these only and i do all these for increasing my knowledge, stunt ability in me, ability to take decision, these all are not waste but goes waste when i don't have any effect of that on me. these all also tell that, i have knowledge of every thing but deep knowledge is missing at every point that sinks me. knowledge in depth is must cause it makes able to stand and speak infront of anyone cause deep knowledge brings confidence.
then i departed or filled the coloumn of hobbies, so that brought writing notes and playing guitar, teaching guitar, teaching students who are younger than me. so my hobbies were less.
so i came to conclude that intrest are what we like to do and hobbies are those intrest which becomes part of our daily life and we love to do them. but keeping in mind that every point about hobby should beclear so that you don't fail to explain or tell answers for them. so hobby's total and complete knowledge is needy.
then choose your success, cause hobby or intrest can make you successful. because you know them completely. that can and will bring success.
it is very important topic and everyone who has not made him to this level should think and do this. it is important step for life. which i came to understand now. thanxto my lecturar.
Sunday, September 14, 2008
some efforts are also needed there as our heart should have maximum greed for that and love should be there, so that we can do any thing for that. sometimes it doesn't comes but wait and patience is required at that moment. so be calm and relaxed but attentiveness and care should not forgotten at any moment.
it will be with us aill be as i have.
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
- It depends on us how we want to learn , if we learn any topic or any point by soully concentrating mind in that topic then it will not get forgetten by us easily. but here a point also matters for how much time we want that topic in our course of duration that for how much time we want that topic not to be forgotten by us.
- memory works like a pencil if that pencil left impression dark then it will be remove from the page after a long time but if work done with that is light then it will be removed soon.
- some points which are recently read might get forget by us on the same date but if read carefully and topic is of our intrest then might be whole topic will be there in mind. but if however the topic is not intrested then also the topic is there in mind but recalling would be difficult. then we need to have a look.
- some part of the memory remain always in active state due to its regular and unlimited use. but if memory at that end too start working by own then mental disorder will occur.
- sentiments also plays an important role in reminding things, if anything occured with joy, sorrow, love, anger , etc then that thing will be there in mind forever and if any situation like that occurs again accidently then that whole topic will get rewind by itself. you don't even have to think of reminding that.
- memory never looses what it has once, what it needs is only rivison
What i have FOUND about MEMORY
- memory is network of chain, or it works as a chain. if all notes of it are tight and have strength in it (that depends upon its manufacturing material and method) if one note of chain is weaker then the next part of chain will get affected by its own. but it doesn't mean that that next part is waste that will come in use for sure if make in use.
- pictures or images are best way of learning and calling any topic, but it also needs full attention with it because some point then too get neglected at that time might cause the full picture not to come back in full in front of memory.
- if memory works like underlines then lines get darken by regularly underlining that line that is rivison is emphasised.
please tell me what you think about memory work, and if i am left with anyview the please do suggest me,
Friday, September 5, 2008
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Janmashtami is celebrated to welcome and enjoy Lord Krishna's birth. The birth of Lord Krishna took place when the various planets were in auspicious places. It is said that God chooses a particular time, as to when he will take birth as a human and the planetary systems are adjusted accordingly.
Friday, August 22, 2008
including love in success hears and looks odd to me also, but i thought a lot that love is the only purpose of life and loving is the beginning of every thing and it is the only end of life too. today, i want to write some things related to me, it would not be intresting somewhere but it would be relating some of us in many ways. it might be bringing some of us towards success and would be taking away from success.
i have met many people in my life yet, but non of that has taken special space in my heart. cause i have not given any space to tham in my heart. i was involved with many of then in many work, in many parties, in many get togethers too. nut i felt apart and aside of them many times, because i fet what we will gain from these things or meetings but what now i reliazes at this moment of life that, all things are waste except being with friends, being in love with all, and meeeting with friends and laughing with them is the only soul purpose of life somewhere.
i many a times also thought that, i will live my life in this way or that way but, this only gave tension and waste of time to me cause to learn life is id to live life's every moment with joy. cause we all will get departed someday, sometime but the only thing which will be left with us will be, only and only the talks and fun which we made with our friends.
ealier i used to live with every thing like i am passing my own time, i thought that i am clever and can do every thing,. but what these all gave to me is nothing just waste of my own life's precious time. cause it was in habbit of mine, which i reliased now. i reliased and came to know about self, knowing myself is like a mirror of my own image. what i feel now that i am running alone in a race course. running like a player who don't have any competitor, who don't have anyone behind him for his buck up. it seems like confusing words but need a lot of presence of mind, some may think i am a confused one. but i am not that, i am in also in those who want loe and its sharing with everyone.
i have used "i" many times in my sentences above, this shows that i am staying in my self. lol. making my self more complexive in nature and all these brings me to a conclusion of loving some but soully and every moment of life.
what you think am i fully expressing my self or not. expressing is knowing self and others.
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
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yes i am talking about friends they can tell what you are in a taunting way, in joks, in every thing they share with you. this is another way of getting success in knowing self.
sometimes the friends may not be person, it may be pet of yours, may be books of yours, may be blog of yours where you write yourself. and i think there must be a friend with us in anyform, if it is not then we will not be able to live.
Make your own way. a new slogan of mine.
Tuesday, August 5, 2008
for living successfully, we have to follow some passionate way or live like life flows on or there might be many ways like living courageouly, proudly. but if we always think somebody will come and change our lives then we are wrong. we have to change for living differently. live in that way in which you want to live. but there are some difficulties or many things which will stp you to go or achive success in that way too. so living any type of life needs that much force inside that can lead you toward success.
changing the way in between will always cause occurance of sorrow for further life. we have to follow that selected way by us, that will byitself bring happiness to you and many awards too but that might be before sorrow or after it. the only thing we need is to sticking ability and hard heart somewhere for any pain.
actually waht i think if we start learning about how to live life then we can'tlive life fully. so be in the pool of life and start swimming in that, if swimming ability is not with us then it will come by own.
There are times too when someone in the way meets with us and walk with us and thoughts interchanges, so the reason for meeting with them is to interchnge knowledge and loving them cause they are teachers and friends like god to handle many unknown situations together.
living and loving life is also the ability, which is gained by some of us after hard practice or after watching many difficult conditions. loving life is also a very important aspect of life and giving love to others is the only reason to learning successfully any way.
so never have the feeling of "I" or "My" cause it departs us from the way and with those friends who were with us on that way of being successful.
Sunday, August 3, 2008
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Friday, August 1, 2008
Important thing according to me is the "Understanding" which must be there in between two. But this is only a love which is being showed.
success in love not lies sometimes in telling your beloved one, each and every feeling of yours. But also hiding some feelings in yourself. It will increase the taste of love. for making you good for your beloved one. knowing all about beloved one is first step of love towards the success.
Love is only love.True stage is that in which you become her and she becomes you. this is real successful stage. and if you become what your beloved one want you to be, then it is also a success.
being in love for other will make you feel like heaven. You will not aware of yourself what you were and what you are and will be. staying in her or his thoughts will make you sometime mad. but that madness if true and from truth of your mind then that will be a success. so love other from heart of yours, living life will be better and awsome. what you think.
but what i see in previous type of love which i discussed earlier is not true anywhere, it is based on the floor of lie.
i have an example of one of my friend who loves a girl and she too loves her. they have true love. they meet smetimes, and sometimes they only see eachother from a distance but their eyes do meet. in this they are happy and they do not think about future cause they want to love each moment they spent or spend tpgether. in my view this is true love.
love is all around us but guys or girls thinks that, it can be boundede more efficiently by having that relationship which can make their life hell later. they just want to enjoy that moments. they can't and dont have control on their own emotions. but why these situations arises. we have to find that and solve that too.
so being a writer or a blogger, i want to say somelines.
love satys in eyes, love grows in heart.
love stays in breath, love flows in nerves.
and life of lover stays in soul of beloved.
living with true love might be very hard then that love which is based on lie.
now a days all want to spend their time with their beloved one, some do that on phone, in resturant or somewhere else.
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Find what you have then with you. if you find something that is the real thing you can carry with your soul. nothing except that. you will surely have the feeling of free from every connection. This is another way of being going in deep of work, love, success. if this stage is achieved then your every moment will be full of joy anfd fun. cause you dont have to think about yourself.
If i tell about me, what i like or feel after going in depth of music while playing or listening is free from conciousness of mind. that stage is of being unconcious from every thing. But it can also led to being unware of or irresponsible of work. so be aware of that too. this can be for relaxing yur mind and body. as i listen qawali of Nusrat fateh ali khan, Rahat fateh ali khan, and of Farid, Bulleh shah. and of many sufi singer. this also leds me to towards success. but this path is what i like. so you may have different interest. enjoy of being in that interest. freeeing yourself from you is the major thing i am stressing about. if you want to know about this then have a look at this http://lovewithgod.blog.co.uk/
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
similar in the case of growing person. for getting successful a person can take help of that who has been succesful by efforts. but in this way some or few gets success cause it is copying and copying has to face some problems as copying doesn't requires self efforts.
so better way can be think like how a successfull peson thought and then do all efforts again with practice, try to find new ideas which could be better then the past one. be relaxed but creative with every next second. add your own taste in that and love your work differently. only in rthis way the copying will work with many new great ideas.
Another way, do that which others do not want to do. do that efficently. take first step of accepting the responsibility. if you move one single step towards success then success will also move one or more step towards you. so in this way success loves itself.
Monday, July 28, 2008
Sunday, July 27, 2008
The Emotional Tone Scale is a powerful tool that gives you dozens of benefits.
For example, you can use the tone scale to:-
● Make people feel more comfortable with you● Predict how people will react to various situations● Understand why some people pull you down● Improve your ability to get agreement from people● Better understand yourself ● Know who you can trust and who you should not trust● Increase your concentration and reaction time● Motivate yourself and others● Make yourself into a saner, better person.
The top of the tone scale includes the more positive emotions and the bottom of the scale lists the undesirable emotions.
"The Emotional Tone Scale"
1.1 Covert Hostility
0.0 Body Death.
The higher the individual is upon the Tone Scale, the better chance he has of obtaining the wherewithal* of living, the happier he is, the healthier his body will be." (*wherewithal = financial needs)
When you are high on the tone scale, you not only feel happier and healthier, you are interested in everything around you. You are alert, clear-headed and energetic. People enjoy being around you as you are trustworthy, responsible and genuinely cheerful.
Actually a person fluctuates on this scale from hour to hour and day to day. He receives good news, he goes momentarily to Tone 3.0. He receives bad news, he may sink for a moment to Tone 1.0. He falls in love and for a month he is at level 3.5. His girl leaves him and for a week he is at Tone 0.5. When he is very young he rides around Tone 3.5. As he grows older, his tone drifts down to 2.5. As an old man, he may drift down to 0.0 and death, either slowly or swiftly."Where Are You on the Tone Scale?
identify your tone level.
0.05 Apathy: You do not care about yourself or others. You are always ill. Nothing seems real. You cannot face the past and do not care about the future. You lie to get sympathy. You want people to pity you. You feel lost and unimportant.
1.0 Fear: Life seems dangerous and serious. You are frequently sick. You cannot make decisions. You wonder what is real and what is unreal. You assume people want to hurt you. You do not take responsibility and you lie to avoid any type of confrontation.
1.1 Covert Hostility. You are similar to a person in fear, but you also have hostility. Because you are afraid, you cover up your hostility. As well as lying to people, you stab them in the back. You are devious, underhanded and like to gossip.
1.5 Anger: You openly show your hostility. You are "right" about everything. You attack people, verbally or physically. You use threats, punishment and alarming lies to dominate others. You are a coward, but will use unreasonable bravery to hurt yourself or others.
2.0 Antagonism: You feel irritated much of the day. Your illnesses are severe. You assume the worst in people; you find it difficult to trust anyone. Instead of trying to help people succeed, you prefer to just stop them. You are a critic.
2.5 Boredom: While you are not angry or opposed to others, you are not interested in them either. You are occasionally ill. You are indifferent, careless and insincere. You give up if anything gets in your way. You are not creative, but not destructive either.
3.0 Conservatism: You are mildly interested in life. You try to tell the truth and can be trusted in most matters. You are courageous, but only if the risks are low. You are social and somewhat friendly to a small group of people.
3.5 Cheerfulness: Your interest in people is high and you try to understand them. You are capable of assuming important responsibilities. You rarely get sick. You can persist on a path to the end result. You use energy and logic to get people to do things. You like to help people.
4.0 Enthusiasm: You are creative and excited. You never get sick. You are eager to understand and help others. You are courageous in all circumstances. You gladly accept responsibility and can be trusted. You achieve your objectives, despite all opposition. Your enthusiasm is contagious; people like to follow your lead. You love life and the future looks wonderful.
For example :- if i take example of myself. as i used to talk with girl who is my friend's friend. her father is an inspector in police. i sacre too of my parents too cause if anything wrong happens with anyone and if anyhow her or my parents would came to know about this then i will not able to handle that situation. this leds in myself fear and a losser behaviours enters in my head. or it makes me scare in other words.
So i decided to leave all that things which are based on lies or which keeps me in scare. I want to join that way whichis based on truth and which can bring confidence in me. this is also a way to move towards success. so never choose that way in which you feel wrong or in which heart doesn't agree your inner self to move. this is a simple example for staying away from lie and the way of losser.
Stay in the way of truth and in that which your heart agrees. live confidently and successfully.
but what you think about this. you can tell about any type of relationship.
Friday, July 25, 2008
we have to learn from them and keep moving ahead and should enjoy each and every step of ours. we should move and keep on moving for wining success. this is the basic principle and formula.
enjoy each step if we loose or win. enjoyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy.
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Wednesday, July 23, 2008
divergence can be of any type as body is not fit for work, mind is not stable,house dsputes, or disputes with friend. anger and many things like that. but these all things capture or attacks us when we donot make our innerself strong. to keep all these away from our way for aim. doing regular exercise and and keep the anger away from self. and for building innerself , we can meditate, we can do yoga. i am not telling to join any classes. do it at home, for ten minutes but regularity should be maintained.
staying fit from every point is necessary but aim should not be left by any cause. for whih concentration is needed. comment me for adding new concepts too about gaining success.
Monday, July 21, 2008
Do you use it yelling at your spouse? Surfing the web? Watching television?
Or do you spend your energy working hard? Helping people? Learning new things?"
That which a person works hardest on, he winds up having. That's one of the fundamentals of this universe. That to which he devotes energy, he finally has." -- L. Ron Hubbard
For example, if you spend your energy on parties or sporting events, you end with memories of parties or sporting events. If you work hardest at making your enemies wrong, you end with enemies who are wrong. If you spend your energy worrying about being penniless, you end up being broke. If, however, you spend that same work and energy doing something that makes you money, you end up with more money. If you spend your time finding a spouse, you get a spouse. If you spend your energy learning new skills, you have new skills.How do you spend your energy? On what do you work the hardest? That is what you have, right?Recommendations
Use this simple, yet powerful idea to get what you want from life.
1. Write down three things that you want. Do you want a successful business? Love? A healthier body? More intelligence? Happiness?
2. Devote your energy just to those things. Work hardest on those and nothing else.
3. Don't be too surprised when you suddenly get them!
success is not only in the way of education not only in corporate world , not only in the way of earning life. it is also in earning life, it is in the way of earning self conciousness.
example of this can be :- as we do work to earn money, but only making money can make our life to loose other things. so we have to manage every thing for a successful life. success should be of both that is mind and heart. you heart and mind should be happy, if it is done then we are the successful person of this whole world. stay heart and mind cool and happy.
try to understand yourself and learn something from everyone who is with you on any path. cause learning is the only real part of life and only understanding yourself is the only goal. and who attains this is the successful person. what do you think share with me ?
Monday, July 14, 2008
Sunday, July 13, 2008
There has never been a better time for worry. We have problems everywhere: rising gas prices, falling stock markets, fires, floods, wars and potential wars.
According to the news, we are seeing more financial problems, more home foreclosures and more people going broke than ever before. "They" say we are very worried.
Symptoms of Anxiety
* You worry about everything, big things, little things, imaginary things* You are afraid of making mistakes* You find it hard to make decisions* You feel nervous for no reason* You feel dizzy or weak or tired* You imagine the worst* Your body is tense* You sleep poorly
Three Popular, but Bad Solutions
1. You visit your doctor and get a prescription for some anti-anxiety medication. After a few weeks, you may or may not feel calmer.
However, you dislike adding chemicals to your body. You don't want the side effects. You hate needing a drug for your happiness. If you quit, you feel twice as anxious as before.
2. You visit your local bar or liquor cabinet. After a drink or two you feel calm.
Alcohol has the same disadvantages. You hurt your liver or become an alcoholic. The next day, your head hurts and you still feel worried. You wish your happiness did not come from a bottle.
3. You go to a hypnotist or buy "subliminal" tapes that give you commands while you sleep. If you can go under, you feel calmer after the sessions.
But again, you hate not being in control of your feelings, good or bad. Your anxiety comes back in new forms. You wonder what other commands the hypnotist gave to you.
One Simple, Powerful Solution
By making one easy change in your lifestyle, you can significantly reduce your stress and anxiety. All you do is stop listening to certain people! You ignore the Merchants (sellers, distributors) of Chaos (disorder, confusion).
"It is to their [the Chaos Merchants'] interest to make the environment seem as threatening as possible for only then can they profit."
"Look over a newspaper. Is there anything good on the front page? Rather there is murder and sudden death, disagreement and catastrophe. And even that, bad as it is, is sensationalized to make it seem worse." -- L. Ron Hubbard
Anyone who profits, by making the world seem worse than it is, is a Chaos Merchant.
For example, a politician makes crime seem like a bigger problem than anyone ever thought it was. He promises to fight crime better than his opponent. He wins if he scares enough people.
An arms dealer tells one country, "This country has secretly purchased some bombs and has pointed them at you. You need to buy some bombs and point them at their capital."
Certain lawyers are Chaos Merchants. For example, they say, "A police friend of mine says they are going to investigate you and want to put you in jail. I can probably keep you out of jail, but my retainer is $75,000."
Anyone you know can be a Chaos Merchant. For example, a coworker wants you to stop getting so much done. He thinks he will get a promotion if you start to look bad. So he gives you bad news whenever possible. "I'm really worry we're all going to get fired, don't you?" "No one appreciates us." "I don't think the boss likes your attitude."
Of course, the most popular Chaos Merchants create the bad news you see on television, in newspapers and on the Internet. The more terrifying the news, the more people will listen to them or read their articles.
These Chaos Merchants make us think we have to listen to them to protect ourselves. This makes them popular and helps them make money by selling advertisements.
1. Stop reading newspapers and news magazines. How does knowing all the bad news help you? (Answer = it doesn't.) Just completely cut out the bad news in your life.
Instead, read cheerful articles or an interesting book.
2. Stop watching the news on television. How does it help you or anyone to know about deaths, danger and catastrophes?
Instead, watch an upbeat show or take a walk.
3. Avoid people who like to pass on disturbing "news."
Instead, spend time with people who like to pass on cheerful news.
4. After 7-10 days, notice how you have been feeling.
5. If you are not sure if the Chaos Merchants really have any effect on you, do the above steps for 7-10 days. And then go back and read the newspapers, watch the news and listen to disturbing people for a few days. Notice how you feel now.
Nearly everyone who breaks off all association with Chaos Merchants notices benefits like these.
* You find other parts of your life are more interesting.* You notice your life feels less dangerous.* You eat better and sleep better.* You laugh more easily.* You are less afraid.* You feel healthier.* You feel calmer.
Give it a try!